Wednesday, April 15, 2015

The Reverse Bucket List

This week's The Circle linkup asks us to create a "reverse bucket list"--instead of listing all the things we still want to do, name a few that we've already done. Pretty cool, right? Be sure to check out the other lists at In its Time

I absolutely love this idea, especially since this year I've been trying to (and struggling to) focus on contentment. I have no beef with a bucket list, but sometimes focusing on all those things I still haven't done can be somewhat depressing. This idea though, to take stock of your life and say, "Hey, look at all these awesome things I have done!" is a beautiful thing. I think I needed this, in a way. Making this list reminded me that my life is actually pretty dang good, so I should really spend more time focusing on this list, and not the one I make with all those haven't-yets.

Awesome things that I have done: 

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1. Study abroad in Paris. The summer of my senior year at K-State, I traveled to Paris with a group of students to study French at l'Institute Catholique. If that sounds utterly fantastique to you, that's because it was! I stayed with a host family, a sweet motherly woman who bought me chocolate ice cream and teased me when my pants started to look a little tight by the time I had to go. (Some people gain the Freshman 15, I gained the Paris 20.) It was such a memorable, wonderful experience; my only regret is that I didn't go sooner and stay longer! 

2. Surprise my mom in Hawaii on her 60th Birthday.  A couple of years ago, Aaron and I got the crazy idea to go to Hawaii (where my mom lives for part of the year...sweet, right?) for my mom's 60th birthday. What would make it even crazier is that we wouldn't tell her, we'd just show up (we made plans first with her significant other, don't worry!). The look on my mom's face that day at the airport was unforgettable. So was the rest of the trip; Hawaii is breathtakingly beautiful, what an amazing memory. 

3. Go to a World Series game. Not just any World Series game either, but one that my very own Royals played in last year! True story, we sold Aaron's old pickup to pay for the tickets--those babies weren't cheap! But, it was an experience we both really wanted, and that pickup really needed to go anyway. My dad, a huge baseball fan, came with us, and other than the fact that we got our Royal butts whooped by the Giants, it was a good time. I will never forget that night! 

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4. Meet a great guy and get married. I met Aaron in college; he was the roommate of my best friend's then-boyfriend. When I met him I knew right away that he was one of the good ones. I had a boyfriend at the time, but when I was single again it didn't take me long to not-so-subtly show Aaron that I was interested. Lucky for me, he felt the same way, and now, 11 years of dating and 8 years of marriage later, he's still the love of my life. 

5. Become a mom. I was never the type who dreamed about having babies; I had friends who did, and I wondered sometimes if I just wasn't cut out for motherhood. At one point though, this switch flipped inside of me and I knew that I wanted a child. This sounds cheesy and trite, but honestly, my life changed in the best way when Jona was born. Sure there have been lots of challenges (hello "angry baby" newborn stage!) but being that cute, sweet, stubborn little guy's mom is the best!

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6. Discover the best ice cream in KC. You know how much I love ice cream. (If you're new here, welcome to my blog! I'm obsessed with ice cream. Now you know.) I'm not an ice cream snob; I'm happy to scoop myself a bowl of Blue Bell Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough (no more recalls please BB!). However, going out for ice cream is the best kind of treat. In my opinion, the best ice cream in Kansas City can be found at Murray's. They have an impressive selection of amazing flavors, but my favorite is Chocolate Flake Fromage, a tangy cheesecake-like ice cream with thin chocolate chunks. 

7. Have a play-date at the Nelson Atkins Museum. That's right, my baby is so hipster we have play-dates at museums! Or something like that. In reality, my friend and I went because our kids were still young enough to be happy* hanging out in a stroller while we walked around, chatted, and looked at art. (*Or so we thought...the kids were done with the art-viewing pretty early on, so we ate some lunch and walked around outside the museum.) 

8. Attend a blogging conference. Two weekends ago I attended Go Blog Social here in Kansas City, and it was such an inspiring event. I will share more about the conference and what I learned here tomorrow, so be sure to come back! 

What is on your "reverse bucket list"? 

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30 comments:

  1. I love the idea of a reverse bucket list! I wish I had seen this prompt for today, I might have to do a post on this at some point anyway! And I'm totally like you - I used to wonder if I wasn't cut out for motherhood either, but a switch got flipped in me as well and I can't imagine life NOT being Ollie's mom! And so cool you got to see the Royals play in the World Series!

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  2. What a great idea. Your list is making me feel reminiscent of KC, especially with Murray's in Westport. MMmmmmm.

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  3. You should Beth!! I think the linkup is open for a month, plus I'd love to read your list!
    It's funny how that happened--going from being "meh" on having kids to all of a sudden NEEDING to be a mom. I'm so so glad I did, being a mom is the best job ever! :)

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  4. Yes Murray's is the BEST, right?! Love that place. If you ever come back for a visit let me know and we'll have to meet for an ice cream date!! :)

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  5. Yes, wasn't it great to get a little perspective by doing this - it's like when other people compliment my house decor that I'm totally bored with and over. It opens your eyes up a bit to say yeah, that really is pretty great... So jealous that you've attended a great blogging conference - maybe I should plan a trip next time! And the studying abroad in Paris - how did I not know that about you? I would looooove to go to Paris (side note: recently read a little memoir called Paris in Love and thought it was kind of delightful... you might enjoy reliving days of living in Paris with it).

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  6. Agreed, this was a perspective shift I definitely needed! And yes you SHOULD plan a trip next time, that would be awesome! Just don't plan on doing a Whole30 then so that we could go out for ice cream/other good food ha! :)
    And I'll have to check out that book about Paris! I'm sure it will make me want to go back (even more than I already do!!).

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  7. I am so jealous that you went to a World Series, that would be so amazing!

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  8. The longer I'm in the blogging community, the more I desperately want to go to a blogging conference. I think it'd be such an awesome experience to meet other bloggers and learn so much. That's definitely on my to-do list.

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  9. I'm a K-State grad too...I went there for grad school. Just online though, but we did take a weekend trip to Kansas City while I was in school and we made the drive to Manhattan for a few years. It was fun to just wander around! :)

    How fun that you got to study abroad, go to the play off game and how cool that your mom spends part of the year living in Hawaii. That sounds perfect!

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  10. It was awesome! I mean, we got our asses kicked that night, but it was still awesome! :)

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  11. It was a great experience, I definitely recommend it!! I learned a lot and it forced me out of my little bubble at home and got me to meet a lot of great people. It was definitely worth it!

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  12. Hey that's awesome, go Cats!! I love Manhattan--so many great memories there. What did you do for grad school?
    Studying abroad was awesome, and so was the ball game! And yes, my mom's living up the retired life, that's for sure!

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  13. I went for Academic Advising! Loved the program and it was a really good fit for me bc I had to keep working full time while I went to school. I remember the drive there and thinking about how gorgeous it was!! I grew up in the country in northwest Ohio, but I thought Kansas had a much different feel. If I would've chose to do grad school right after my undergrad, I think I really would have considered moving there while I did the program if they had it offered on campus too!

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  14. Oh that's awesome, I need an academic advisor, seeing as how I still don't know what to do with my life, ha! :)
    It is a really pretty campus! It's grown a lot since I was there. At the time I liked it, but I was ready to move to Kansas City. Now I miss it whenever I go back. But I'm still on the KS side, so I'm definitely a Kansas girl. Glad to know another K-State grad!!

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  15. This is such a wonderful idea, and I love your list! Surprising your mom in Hawaii sounds awesome and I like that finding the best ice cream is on there too.

    My list would probably include going to Italy, getting my drivers license (which was only 4 years ago, because I'm ridiculous), and starting my blog.

    Chic on the Cheap

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  16. I love the reverse bucket list idea! I want to make one. You have done some pretty amazing stuff. I dream of visiting Paris someday. I have always felt like I would just love it. If (I mean WHEN) I go, I will look to you for some advice and good places to visit! And your mom lives in Hawaii part of the year??? Lucky lady. I love Hawaii.

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  17. Haha, yes to the ice cream! Or maybe we just meet up in Paris? :)

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  18. I love this idea! I might have to steal it! Ooh I will have to try Murray's.. I am definitely partial to Christopher Elbow's Glace'. (I'm good with non-fancy ice cream at home too... but this is SO good, and fancy and I love it. :) ) hehe

    XO -Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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  19. Thanks Lydia!! Surprising her was wonderful :) And ice cream is my favorite so I had to include that too.
    Ooh, Italy--now there's somewhere I've always wanted to go!

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  20. Yes, you have to go to Paris. When you go just take me with you!!! :) And yes, isn't that awesome?! She's loving retired life :)

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  21. Oh you should, I'd love to read your reverse bucket list!! And check out Murray's for sure! But I love Glace too--also SO SO good. That reminds me I need to make a trip there too soon!

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  22. "Making this list reminded me that my life is actually pretty dang good, so I should really spend more time focusing on this list, and not the one I make with all those haven't-yets." THAT IS EXACTLY HOW I FELT, TOO. Amen, Shea. Amen. :)



    And that is so cool that you've attended a blogging conference. Part of me realllllly wants to and the other part of me (aka the introvert in me) is super scared to. I can't wait to hear more about it!


    p.s. What an awesome surprise you did for your mom's birthday! I can't imagine how shocked she must have been to see you! How did you get her to show up in the airport to begin with?

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  23. Thanks Kiki, and thanks for hosting this awesome linkup!! :)


    That's exactly how I felt about the blogging conference--totally out of my comfort zone (big introvert too over here) but I think I needed to do that. I'm really glad I went!


    And yes, she was SO shocked! So my husband and I coordinated with her boyfriend and he took her to the airport and told her that he had something to pick up there that had to come in by air and the airport was holding it... I can't believe she believed that! But there she was, so confused to be at the airport, and then she saw us and her mouth just dropped open. It was the best :)

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  24. Going to a World Series game would be SO awesome! I've been to an NBA playoff game... not quite on the same level ;)

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  25. It was awesome, such a great memory!! Especially since it had been so long since the Royals were any good :) The NBA playoff game would be pretty cool too I bet!! (I don't follow the NBA though, so it would all be lost on me!)

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  26. I'm so glad you had a great time at your conference! I would love to attend one someday and it's good to hear that while it was out of your comfort zone, it was still worth the experience.


    And what a great idea! I was wondering how you would get someone to the airport since I hardly go there except if I need pick someone up or go on a trip myself--great thinking on your part! :)

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  27. I just posted my Reverse bucket list today.. becoming a mom is also on my list!

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  28. I'll have to go check it out Diana!! I think that's probably the best thing on my list :)

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  29. The best ice cream!? That sounds like an amazing accomplishment! Ice cream is probably my favorite food ever! So cool that you went to a World Series game! I bet that was so exciting! I've been to an MLB game and it was awesome! How long were you in Paris? Do you speak fluent French?

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  30. Ice cream is also my favorite food ever, so I'm always on the lookout for new places to try!
    The World Series game was awesome! I love going to baseball games :)
    I was in Paris for about a month--it was amazing, but it went by really quickly. I used to speak French pretty fluently, but now that I don't speak it on a regular basis I'm not even close to fluent any more :/

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